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Boss Lady’s Kindness Escapades

April 20, 2012

Perhaps the world little notes nor long remembers individual acts of kindness — but people do. — Herm Albright

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“The owner began mumbling in Korean under her breath. I couldn’t get her to look up to me, so I asked the woman at my feet what was going on. She took an extra beat, maybe deciding whether she was going to really tell me, or not. And she said to me, ‘That’s Boss Lady, and it’s Christmas Eve, and everyone going home early until you come in – Manicure Pedicure 45 minutes – so now everyone has to wait for you.’ Taken aback, I felt instantly stung. She could have said no, but then I guessed she couldn’t. And there she was still mumbling away, and so I turned to her, and with my sweetest voice and a big smile on my face, I said, ‘Boss Lady, stand up.'” What follows is a beautiful and spontaneous real-world kindness story — and the unexpected ripples it created years later.
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The next time you encounter brusqueness, respond with a gentle and kind act.

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Dharma Quote from Snow Lion Publications

April 19, 2012
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Dharma Quote of the Week

We are the source of healing and happiness. Our generosity and concern pacify every negative situation. As we send out kindness, we grow accustomed to being strong and kind. In this way, our positive feelings are constantly renewed and can never be exhausted.

Perhaps you know the story about the man who arrived in heaven and when asked by God where he wanted to go replied that he wanted to see both heaven and hell. First, he went to hell. There was a large table with all the inhabitants of hell sitting around it. The center of the table was full of delicious food. Each person had two very long chopsticks. They could reach the food but they could not get it into their mouths because their chopsticks were too long. They were miserable. No one was eating and everyone went hungry. Next he was taken to visit heaven. All the inhabitants of heaven were also sitting around a big table full of delicious food but they were happy. They too had very long chopsticks but they were eating and enjoying themselves. They used the chopsticks to feed each other across the table. The people in heaven had discovered that it was in their interest to collaborate unselfishly.(p.69)

–from Mind Training by Ringu Tulku, published by Snow Lion Publications

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Kindness Daily: Secret Agents Spreading Smiles!

April 19, 2012
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Secret Agents Spreading Smiles! April 19, 2012 – Posted by MakeSomeoneSmile
Today my champion-of-kindness daughter and I set out on one of our kindness missions.

A while back we did some random drops of envelopes filled with a dollar, Smile cards, and a note asking them to pay it forward. Today we tried a similar experiment and it was my little 6 year old’s idea.

We put a different spin on it this time. She wanted to watch people open them, as last time we loved the few we did see. So this time when we left an envelope, we watched from somewhere nearby. We made sure to only leave them when we couldn’t be caught.

The first one someone grabbed and walked off. We only followed them for a bit and then thought it best to move on to our next “victim”. The second one we sat across from and watched. It was a family who found it. The skeptical husband thought for sure it was a joke and told his wife to take it to security. She didn’t listen and we laughed as we started walking away, still paying attention to her reaction. She smiled, read the note, read the Smile cards and gave one of them to her husband.

Apparently I still have to work with little Rachel on being discrete though, as she stared the entire time. So much for a secret agent career when she gets older!

The third was our favorite. We were in the mall and left it on one of the tables in a sitting area. Then we took the escalator and watched from above. Soon a man and a woman pushing a stroller stopped to rest. She picked up the envelope, looked around trying to see who could be watching, then opened it. She didn’t see us up above and looking down. The woman’s reaction was awesome! She smiled and kept looking around trying to see if someone was watching, and we could see her reading the note to her husband. Her smile and laughter made the whole thing worthwhile.

We didn’t get to see who grabbed our last one as we had to leave to get to Rachel’s Girl Scouts event. But we had a great time and I am very proud of my little kindness kid. She wants to do it again soon and rest assured we will! Spreading kindness is so much fun!

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Mr. Happy Man

April 19, 2012

Let us be grateful to people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom. — Marcel Proust

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For six hours each day, Bermuda’s Johnny Barnes stands at a busy traffic intersection telling all who pass that he loves them. His delight and sincerity are infectious, and the people of the island love him back. His service is a simple reminder of the power of happiness and loving-kindness to change any day for the better.
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Take a cue from Johnny Barnes: surprise a stranger today with a bright smile and a kind word.

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Kindness Daily: Kindness Adventures of “Boss Lady”

April 18, 2012
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Kindness Adventures of “Boss Lady” April 18, 2012 – Posted by beastly
[Posting on behalf of a friend who I met at a recent dinner and was inspired by the intention behind Smile Cards.]

Chapter One:

It was Christmas Eve for most people – for me, and my longest-standing friend Lanie, it was just another Saturday night. We were going to meet for a waterside dinner on the Northern shore of Long Island before I headed onto I-95 on my way back to Providence.

I arrived about 45 minutes early and on impulse popped into the Nail Salon a few doors up from the restaurant. The owner approached me asking what services I wanted. “Manicure” I answered. “Manicure Pedicure” she chirped. “No, just manicure today – I only have 45 minutes.”

"Manicure Pedicure," she re-chirped. "Manicure Pedicure 45 minutes!"

She walked me to the back of the salon, pointed to a chair, turned to her staff and without a seconds pause, she pulled up a chair and sat by my right hand. Another woman was at my feet, and a third on a stool by my left hand. It didn’t seem that it was going to be too very relaxing, but I felt sure I’d walk out of there in 45 minutes with both a manicure and pedicure.

The owner began mumbling in Korean under her breath. I couldn’t get her to look up to me, so I asked the woman at my feet what was going on. She took an extra beat, maybe deciding whether she was going to really tell me, or not. And she said to me, "That’s Boss Lady, and it’s Christmas Eve, and everyone going home early until you come in – Manicure Pedicure 45 minutes – so now everyone has to wait for you."

Taken aback, I felt instantly stung. She could have said no, but then I guessed she couldn’t. And there she was still mumbling away, and so I turned to her, and with my sweetest voice and a big smile on my face, I said, “Boss Lady, stand up.”

She stopped her mumbling immediately, and looked at me and said, “OK OK” and continued with her emery board. “No,” I said with ever so slightly more vibrato to my voice, “Boss Lady, stand up.” And she did.

I too stood up. “Boss Lady, you sit here.” I said as I pointed to the big black leather seat. “You sit here – and Manicure Pedicure for Boss Lady. Merry Christmas for Boss Lady!”

Reluctantly she switched seats with me. I began to file her right hand, and with my insistence, the two other women started in on her other hand and feet. It took only a minute for her to realize the fun of the moment and she turned to the other workers and asked them to make some tea for us. “Yes, Boss Lady,” they chirped and in the town of Northport, on the island of Long, in the State of New York, Christmas had its official beginning at 4:45 pm.

Chapter Two

The day after Christmas I was on my way to Healthrax to swim with my "almost" grandson and his dad. I was relaying the story of Boss Lady and Oscar, just recently turned 4, began to call me Boss Lady with his big teasing smile. He wasn’t quite sure if it was okay, but when I smiled back, he decided it was, and so Boss Lady it was for the rest of the day.

During our swim time he kept calling to me: “Boss Lady, I’m swimming to you” and I noticed that others around the pool smiled whenever he did.

As I was climbing out of the pool a young boy, maybe 7 maybe 8, was sitting on the pool steps pantomiming playing the piano on the water. I stopped to ask him what he was playing. "Chopin" he said without looking up. "Can I hear it?" I asked and he began to hum a tune that sounded vaguely Chopin-esque as he continued to play the water. "Do you have a piano at home?" I asked. "I do, but C and E and D are broken – here, [he pointed to the left of the imaginary keyboard] in the middle, and at the top too." I guessed it was an electronic device because it would be too coincidental for all those notes to be broken in each octave on an old-style piano.

Suddenly, he stopped playing and looked up at me with tears in his eyes. "I asked Santa for a real piano for Christmas, but he didn’t bring it."

"Maybe it was too big for the sled?" I countered. And then, "Which lady is your mommy here?" He pointed to a woman standing on the sidelines and said to me, "Over there Boss Lady, she’s over there" as he went back to his water-Etude.

I looked over to her, she smiled sweetly, and as I neared, she said, "He’s a cutie, isn’t he?" Hard to deny. We chatted a bit — she’s a professional cellist — and I weaseled her name from her, wished her a Merry Christmas and went off to the steam room.

The next day I had my piano – the one my son had learned on over 40 years ago. The one his father had learned on over 60 years ago – moved from my house to theirs. The very next day I received an email with a photo of the piano in it’s new home.

Last week I received an invitation from Enzo to his piano concert in June. And yes, I RSVP’d — Boss Lady will be delighted to attend.

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Six Ways To Empower Others

April 18, 2012

If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader. — John Quincy Adams

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What makes a good leader? According to this article from YES! Magazine it’s the gift of strengthening others. Also, “an empowering leader makes mistakes. If she doesn’t, she’s probably not experimenting enough. An empowering leader is also a good learner, an experienced and willing apologizer, someone who can make amends and move on.” Starhawk, the author of “The Empowerment Manual: A Guide for Collaborative Groups” shares reflections on the various qualities that go to making good leaders, and offers up six practical guidelines for engaging, nurturing and affirming the best in the people we live and work with.
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To be a leader, practice being a ladder. 🙂 Nurture someone’s growth today.

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Dalai Lama Quote from Snow Lion Publications

April 17, 2012
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Dalai Lama Quote of the Week

When you are in a fluctuating state of mind, like when you are angry or have lost your temper, then it is good to bring back calmness by concentrating on breathing. Just count the breaths, completely forgetting about anger. Concentrate on breathing and count in/out “one, two, three,” up to twenty.

At that moment when your mind concentrates fully on breathing, the breath coming and going, the passions subside. Afterwards it is easier to think clearly.

Since all activities, including meditation, depend very much on the force of intention or motivation, it is important that, before you begin to meditate, you cultivate a correct motivation… The correct motivation is the altruistic attitude.(p.69)

–from Cultivating a Daily Meditation by Tenzin Gyatso, His Holiness the Dalai Lama

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Henry, an iPod and Music’s Alchemy

April 17, 2012

Music gives a soul to the universe, wings to the mind, flight to the imagination and life to everything. — Plato

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His name is Henry, and he lives in a nursing home. For years he slouched deep in his wheelchair, utterly unresponsive to caretakers and visiting family. Until one day he was given an iPod — preloaded with popular tunes from his youth. What followed was a dramatic, exuberant transformation that has to be seen to be believed. “Alive Inside”, a new documentary brings to viewers a study of the alchemy that music can work on seniors living with dementia and Alzheimers. In the film, a social worker and famed neurologist Oliver Sacks embark on an exploration that traverses the magic, mystery and healing potential of music. The short clip from the film featured here has gone viral. It covers Henry’s sea change and his exhilarating words on the power of music.
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The next time you are with an elderly friend or family member ask them about their favorite music. If possible listen to a recording of it together!

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InnerNet Weekly: Business Lessons from A Quiet Gardener

April 17, 2012
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Business Lessons from A Quiet Gardener
by William Rosenzweig

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795.jpgThe people who know me best know that at heart I am just a quiet gardener. My garden has probably taught me the most about how things grow – and thrive in a vibrant and sustainable manner. These lessons have shaped my approach to encouraging responsible growth in business and to the ways I apply my intention, attention and energy.

A gardener sees the world as a system of interdependent parts – where healthy, sustaining relationships are essential to the vitality of the whole. "A real gardener is not a person who cultivates flowers, but a person who cultivates the soil." In business this has translated for me into the importance of developing agreements and partnerships where vision and values, purpose and intent are explicitly articulated, considered and aligned among all stakeholders of an enterprise – customers, employees, suppliers, shareholders, and the broader community and natural environment.

The garden has taught me about patience and persistence and the ethical principles of generosity and reciprocity. It has illuminated the importance of appreciating the cycles of life and decay. For the gardener, composting is a transformative act – whereby last season’s clippings (or failures) can become next year’s source of vigor.

I’ve learned that it’s not just what you plant, but how you plant it that brings long – term rewards in life, work and the garden. Gardeners know that once strong roots are established, growth is often exponential rather than linear.

Also gardening, like business, is inherently a local activity, set within an ever-changing and unpredictable global climate. Showing up in person, shovel – and humility in hand is essential.

Gardeners, like entrepreneurs, are obsessed with latent potential – and can be known to be pathologically optimistic. We can vividly imagine the bloom and the scent of the rose even in deepest of winter. As the American naturalist Henry David Thoreau once wrote: "I have great faith in a seed. Convince me that you have a seed there, and I am prepared to expect wonders."

In essence, the gardener’s work is a life of care. We cultivate abundance from scarce resources. We nurture, encourage, fertilize – and prune when necessary – while being respectful of the true and wild nature of all things. We know that creating enduring value requires vision, passion, hard work and the spirit of others.

I am just coming to understand this work of business gardening – and investing in keeping people healthy – as an act of universal responsibility. His Holiness Dalai Lama reminds me: "Each of us must learn to work not just for one self, one’s own family or one’s nation, but for the benefit of all humankind. Universal responsibility is the key to human survival. It is the best foundation for world peace."

–William Rosenzweig, from his Acceptance Speech for "Oslo Business for Peace Award"

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Year of Dancing with Life – Week 28

April 17, 2012
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